I'm going to interpret your question as follows:
How can we understand the capabilities of a quantum computer, without having built one?
or, equivalently:
How good is our understanding of quantum information theory?
[disclaimer: I am not a quantum information theorist, so this is a layman's understanding]
Quantum information theory
Even though we've never built one big enough to break real-world RSA, we understand that the building blocks will be qubits and quantum logic gates. While there will undoubtedly be advances in quantum algorithms, we can model things that ought to be easy and things that ought to be hard with these building blocks.
My 2nd year physics understanding is that quantum computers fundamentally operate on waves, so anything that can be described as a wave problem becomes easy for a QC.
For example, both RSA and ECC have periodic group structures, ie finding the period of repetition of
$f(x) = m^x (mod N)$,
exploitation of which would lead to reduced-time brute-forces. Fortunately, period-finding is a hard problem on a classical computer, but periods, wavelengths, frequencies ... waves, and presto! We have Shor's algorithm.
Alright, so armed with this understanding, we can set out to find computation problems that do not have nice periodic wave-like properties. *To the best of our knowledge*, these will be quantum secure. Arguing the exact number of bits of post-quantum security that a given algorithm has is a bit of a crap-shoot at the moment, but I think we have enough understanding of quantum information theory to go "roughly 64 bits, roughly 128 bits, or roughly 256 bits".
Classical information theory
"To the best of our knowledge" holds for classical crypto too. Look at MD5, which was thought to have 128 bits of security when it was introduced, but we now have attacks that can find collisions in $< 2^{64}$ operations. Or RSA, which keeps getting weaker as better integer factorization techniques are discovered.
So there is no rigorous way to demonstrate hardness; all we can do is launch a new algorithm and guess at the number of bits of security against the best-known attacks of the day, this is of both quantum and classical crypto.